These myths exist about anal sex
Anal sex has been around for thousands of years. Yet many people shy away from it. But those who have a desire for anal sex know that it can be very stimulating. Especially if a few things are taken into consideration. Although people should actually know that the desire for a hearty ass fuck is nothing frowned upon, they practice it too rarely.
Learn about anal sex in porn?
Better not! What is shown in porn movies does not correspond to real life. The actors are extensively prepared for the scenes. In addition, numerous positions and postures that are seen there are actually very painful and can hurt. But the desire for anal sex still doesn’t have to go away.
Only men have desire for anal sex
There are countless nerves in the anus. That is why he is particularly sensitive to touch. The G-spot of some women can also be stimulated from behind. The outer sides of the clit can be gently stroked in parallel, which not infrequently leads to an orgasm.
But anal intercourse does not necessarily belong to the repertoire during sex. Especially to do the partner a favor. Nevertheless, it is recommended to ignite the desire for anal sex. It’s at least worth a try. If an attempt failed or the practice caused pain, you can try again. This is how you discover if it’s not worthwhile to practice anal sex after all.
Many people spurn the desire for anal sex at a young age. If they have matured a little, they may even find that they have missed out on something so far. They are becoming more experimental. Pole love inevitably creates more closeness to the partner. But before that, it is essential to make the right preparations. This is the only way to make it a relaxing and enjoyable experience.
Anal sex is very painful
It’s possible. But only if it is practiced incorrectly. There are several reasons for this.
For example, if the lubricant is omitted. The anus cannot moisten itself, as is the case with the vagina. Therefore, it is mandatory to use lubricant during anal sex. Thick finishes are perfect. But there are also erotic toys that are specially designed for anal sex. The surface of these toys is oily, so they slide in better. Of course, this makes you want to have anal sex more. This can be practiced extensively without causing pain.
Toy or penis are inserted too quickly? Then it can hurt. It is better to be more sensitive and slower in doing so. Penis or toy is initially introduced only with the tip. Sometimes the anal plug also serves as a precursor. When the anus of the passive partner relaxes and opens, then it continues – also very slowly.
In general, the anus is sensitive and wants to be treated with caution and care. Only when there is a noticeable relaxation should it continue. Do not fully penetrate immediately. Better to work ahead piece by piece. There will be a break in between. Here the penis can move slowly up and down. This gives the muscle valuable time to relax. It also has a certain habituation effect on the receiving partner.
If the latter has the feeling that the penis has disappeared up to the stop in the anus, another position is taken. Or it won’t go any further. The active partner must be patient, because only in this way the other also has desire for anal sex and is not hurt.
However, there is one thing to be careful about. Not everyone manages to stay patient. If the penis stops moving, it becomes flaccid in many men. Then it may not work out with sex. At least not with a penis. Toys can still be used. In this regard, many toys are offered that make you want to have anal sex.
The atmosphere is not right? Then it gets harder. If you don’t feel like anal sex or are unrelaxed, you won’t show much interest in it. Plus, it makes him hurt. For women, the immediate environment plays a big role in whether they are ready for sex or not. It could be too hot or too cool in the room, she’s not in the mood, is tense, and more. The partner, on the other hand, must awaken the desire in her. The reasons against anal sex are often not even conscious. No one has to justify it. However, if you think you feel like anal intercourse, you are welcome to try it out and you might even be pleasantly surprised.
Some people are against anal sex on principle. Not everyone likes him. That’s perfectly fine. No one has to do anything they don’t like. There are so many other practices and preferences that sex is just as fun in other ways.
Want to have anal sex but afraid of incontinence and irreversible dilation?
It almost never happens that anal sex is responsible for incontinence. The important thing is that it is practiced as previously described. Be sure to use a lubricant. When pain occurs, the active part must stop. This prevents injuries from occurring in the first place. After anal intercourse, the sphincter muscle forms back to its original shape. Therefore, overstretching is actually impossible.
However, pelvic floor exercises can’t hurt. This also benefits the buttocks. Sensitivity is thus increased. In addition, over time, the trainee can consciously tense or relax the anus during anal sex.
Anal sex is something forbidden and indecent
No, anal sex isn’t, don’t worry. The region that comes into contact with the penis or dildo does not contain feces. Still, every now and then it is possible. Therefore, anal showers are recommended before sex. Intimate showers look like a balloon. A little warm water is poured in there. With the tip working like a shower, the anal douche slides into the anus.
A little lubricant is put on the tip to make insertion easier. As soon as pressure is applied to the balloon, the water flows into the anus and out again into the toilet. In this way, even the last remains of faeces can be removed. If you haven’t had an anal shower before, it will seem strange at first. But over time, it becomes a habit and feels comfortable.
Solid stool ensures that the bowel and anus remain clean. Therefore, foods that contain fiber are recommended. Also, drink plenty of fluids. Thus, the desire for anal sex has a secondary positive impact on health.
Anal sex has no dangers
If you feel like having anal sex and think it’s harmless, you’re wrong. Germs and bacteria can generally change hosts during sex. Whether anal, oral or vaginal doesn’t matter. However, the risk of infection is higher in the passive partner during anal intercourse. For example, with different viruses than other practices. He needs to protect himself. This is where a condom comes in handy.
In addition, there are other dangers. The two partners should definitely pay attention to hygiene so as not to interfere with the desire for anal sex. Intestinal bacteria must not migrate into the vagina. This can result in fungal infections. They cause unpleasant itching.
Tips for anal sex desire
If you want to have anal sex and have not yet had anal intercourse, you should consider a few things beforehand. Indeed, Poliebe is often criticized and described as painful. But that’s only the case if you don’t think about it beforehand. If you want to have a great erotic experience, anal sex with good preparation is a must.
Preparation is half the battle
Ass fucking usually can not be practiced spontaneously, because the anus must first be prepared for sexual intercourse. So, if you feel like anal sex, you should make a few preparations. As a passive part, it is not much fun to have anal sex when the toilet visit has not yet taken place. Accordingly, you can drink a cup of coffee in the morning and eat food as rich in fiber as possible. If you wish, you can take an anal douche or use a so-called enema to flush out the intestines. Afterwards you should take a shower. This makes you feel especially clean and subsequently better during sex.
Sex toys are often used during anal sex. These should be cleaned extensively before sex. If you want, you can already put the toys ready for later use. It is important to have the lube handy, because anal sex should never take place without lube. Without lubricant, pain is pre-programmed and then the desire for anal intercourse passes very quickly again. Condoms should also find their way into the bedroom during anal sex. There are bacteria in the intestine and they can cause STDs. Often, the act is alternated between vaginal sex and the anal fuck, without changing the condom. However, this is not advisable and therefore you should have enough condoms on hand for optimal – and safe – fun.
Doggystyle is not a must
Normally, everyone always thinks of anal sex as “from behind”, but this is not necessary at all. Sex does not have to take place in the doggystyle position. There are also many positions in anal intercourse where one partner faces the other. A good example of this is the riding position. The position also has the advantage that the woman can determine the pace and intensity during ass fucking. Thus, the fear of pain can be taken away, because the woman determines and not the man. For the man it is also particularly erotic when he has close anal sex and can still see the woman and her breasts from the front.
The sex must always be fun
If the day has come and the desire for anal sex has become great, then it still does not have to be mandatory. When ass fucking it is important that everyone feels comfortable. Without relaxation and mutual care anal intercourse quickly becomes a pleasure killer. So you can possibly even spoil the fun “from behind” forever. Therefore, in addition to preparation and desire, the form of the day is also crucial.
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