Guys have different preferences – which ones?
Large-scale surveys conducted online provide answers to what women and men secretly want during sex. Not only the secret fantasies during sexual intercourse were taken into account, but also the fantasies during masturbation. The results are not really surprising, but nobody was expecting any major surprises either. It is more about the reassuring knowledge that you are not alone with your wishes.
When it comes to the question of what men want during sex, we are entering territory that is as diverse and complex as human sexuality itself. It is often assumed that male sexual desires are simple and straightforward, but the reality is much more nuanced. Men, just like women, have a wide spectrum of needs and desires, ranging from emotional closeness and connection to specific physical preferences.
So what do men like when it comes to sex?
One of the most fundamental desires of many men is for recognition and confirmation of their sexual attractiveness and performance. This can manifest itself in a need for affirmation, both in verbal compliments and in non-verbal recognition. At the same time, many men are looking for a deeper emotional connection through sex, with intimacy and trust seen as essential elements for a fulfilling sexual experience.
Men prefer a threesome during sex
Sex with more than two people is the most frequently mentioned fantasy. Whereby this is explicitly about a third person. Opinions differ as to who this should be. While the majority of men would like to have another partner during sex, women tend to prefer a second male partner.
Incidentally, the desire for a threesome is so widespread that it’s okay to bring up the subject in your own relationship. Perhaps a satisfactory compromise will soon be found: sex with two women today, two men tomorrow and then it starts all over again.
➤ How to guarantee a threesome with two women
The fascination of group sex
Gang bang, group fucking, mass ramming. This form of ecstasy is also part of the repertoire of both men and women, at least in the realm of fantasy. However, from the female side, it usually remains an unrealized idea. The fear of this wicked practice and the danger of suddenly being considered a slut is too great. It’s a shame really, because the idea of group sex is widespread. A good relationship with your own clique, visiting a swingers club or simply consuming small amounts of alcohol can help here.
➤ That’s why you should definitely follow the rules for group sex
Tantra
A nice, slow afternoon fuck. Everyone knows this expression from the cult series “Das Boot”. And rightly so, because slow and pleasurable tantra sex is what many people want. Just lean back and let yourself be fucked for hours, what could be better?
➤ Does an erotic tantric massage count as prostitution?
Men like role-playing during sex
It doesn’t necessarily have to be hours of pre-scripted banter. Slipping into a stimulating costume before sex is enough for most people who secretly dream of role-playing games. The classic is the nurse, but the wicked vinyl and leather outfit is also very popular. Attention men: When it comes to clothes, many women dream of uniforms and expensive suits. A businessman bears responsibility and makes decisions. This makes it easier for women to take on the submissive role that so many women secretly dream of. Which brings us to the fifth point on this list.
➤ Sex fantasies: Role play with Johanna at the couple photo shoot
Power games
It’s not just men who want SM games during sex. Many women also secretly dream of submission and bondage games. Giving the man complete control and letting him use you as he sees fit. Many girls carry submissive ideas around with them. Not every one of them lives it. SM is not for one-night stands. Without a partner you trust, it’s practically impossible to really let yourself go. This is probably also the reason why dark eroticism only landed in fifth place.
➤ The stranger made me submissive with hard coercive games
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