Group sex: rules must be
Making love in a group is first and foremost a game. Therefore, it is essential to follow certain rules of the game. That group sex follows its own rules should therefore be self-evident.
A little definition of pack humping
The spontaneous association when the word group sex comes up is a large crowd of people having lustful sex with each other. Often the proportion of men is higher, especially the cinematic realization in various media of adult entertainment suggests this. But even with three persons a group exists, even if there are also smaller groups in mathematics. The only important thing is that people have the common goal of practicing group sex according to rules.
Such groups can come together in different ways. the simplest constellation is certainly that a couple decides to expand their sexual horizons with another person. Besides, swingers clubs offer good opportunities to get together for sex. But regardless of the state of affairs, rules should be firmly defined for group sex.
Voluntariness
Playing is always something that happens without coercion, the same is true when making love together in threesomes or more. Those who engage in sexual togetherness with others should do so consciously. Solid partnerships in which both partners want to try group sex according to rules can benefit. You learn new things and experience yourself and your pleasure in a completely different way than just the two of you. But if you engage in such an adventure only because the other person wants it, you risk breaking the relationship.
The voluntariness here refers to the entire joint game. So, anyone who has voluntarily started participating in group sex may also stop if he or she realizes that it is not “the real thing” for him or her after all. If practices such as mutual bondage and the like are used when playing with the others, these also do not cancel the voluntary nature.
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Just like in partnership BDSM sex, the rules of group sex are that the tied up part can stop the game at any time. So-called stop words, which are agreed upon beforehand, have proven to be an effective means.
Scope of shared sex
Important before having sex in a group, is to be clear about how far you want to go. Group sex, especially for beginners, can also consist of visiting a swingers club as a couple, for example. That’s where you get intimate with each other and enjoy others watching and being able to watch others.
Others may want to act according to rules during group sex that include touching and kissing other people’s skin. Whether the foreign skin thus included involves the intimate area should also not be decided spontaneously. Rules should also be established for penetration of strangers or by strangers before group sex. If you become clear about your own limits and desires in this way, you will be able to enjoy playing with others much more.
Mutual protection
In group sex, you meet for sex with people you usually know less well. Mutual protection is therefore essential. Therefore, group sex needs rules that state how participants protect each other. Condoms not only protect against unwanted pregnancies, but also against sexually transmitted diseases.
They are an absolute minimum when it comes to group sex with rules for lesser known people. Regular swingers will also have regular medical checkups. This also serves not only for self-protection but also for the protection of others.
Trust
But group sex with these rules will remain unpleasant if there is not some basic trust. The atmosphere among those involved, even if they are partly strangers to each other, needs a certain basis of trust. Maybe you have expectations of group sex that it doesn’t meet. Then it must be possible at any time to interrupt the joint game. After all, in fantasy you can’t know beforehand how you will really feel during REAL group sex.
Conclusion
Games thrive on rules, likewise it is important to establish rules for group sex. These are not intended to set limits on your own desire. Rather, they should help to exchange the tenderness with others in confidence. The certainty that the other players will also abide by the rules makes group sex a pleasure. It doesn’t matter if it’s a threesome or an orgy with many.
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