An exploited woman unpacks relentlessly:
“Let this now be a warning to all women!”
What are the latest methods used by locals in tourist areas to pull women over the table by the dozen without any regard for feelings? It was a real chase for women on the Internet: My story began in December 2017 in a chat room. First of all, I would like to inform you that I am married, have three children and am 43 years old. Since I am a very down-to-earth person, I would never have believed that something like this could ever happen to me!
Turkey for almost 20 years
Turkey for almost 20 yearsI assumed I knew my way around the Ottomans, but this was a fallacy. My experience is probably due to the fact that I was in a major marital crisis at the time. That was probably the main reason why I fell for the Turkish man’s advances! He approached me in the chat and explained that he was from Side. Since this is my favorite destination in Turkey, I went into the conversation. He claimed to be 31 years old (it turned out afterwards that he is 26 years old) and that he works as a tour guide for a very well-known company in Turkey.
Since I now wanted to travel to Side in May 2006 and had booked a hotel unknown to me with this organizer, I used this acquaintance to get information about the hotel. He informed me that this hotel did not meet my expectations. He then gave me his cell phone number and said that I could refer to him if I wanted to book another hotel. This I then did and found out that he really was working for this company.
His charming manner dispelled all my doubts
In the following months we chatted regularly, also via cam, SMS as well as phone calls went back and forth. In these conversations, his affection for me increased, which flattered me greatly, as I was lacking that in my marriage at the time. I was aware that this man was much younger. But due to his charming boyish and shy nature, I lost my doubts more with every conversation. He asked me if I could join him in Turkey earlier than May. Since I had so many problems at home, I was very tempted.
However, I did not want to live with him, although he wished to do so several times. In March I booked my own hotel in Side. At that time I refused any compromise to spend the vacation with him in a joint hotel. He, however, was not deterred and booked a room in a small hotel. At his expense. Whereby he took himself for this period extra vacation for me to be able to spend the time undisturbed with me!
He affirmed how much he had fallen in love with me
He affirmed how much he had fallen in love with meIn further conversations, he affirmed how much he had fallen in love with me. That he didn’t mind that I was married or that I was older than him. I would be his dream woman, I should become his wife. Marry him and even give him children! His vows of love grew day by day, which impressed me more and more. Meanwhile, problems at home were growing. My husband noticed that something was wrong here. I stopped talking to my husband and flew to Side in March! When I arrived in Turkey, I already received several text messages asking where I was staying. He was waiting for me so eagerly! When I arrived at my hotel, he was already waiting for me there.
Allegedly his mother was suddenly in the hospital
We went out to eat together, had long conversations. His kind made me weak! The next morning I went with him to his booked hotel! I spent three days with him there. During this time, he kept telling me that his mother was sick and was in the hospital in Antalya. An operation is pending! This made me very suspicious, because I already knew such a pretext to get money.
While he was with me in this hotel, he received several phone calls from a female person who he claimed was his sister. Later research revealed that this was his wife. On the morning of the fourth day, he pretended to have an urgent need to visit his sick mother. He took me back to my hotel and said he would be in touch before I flew back. I spent the following days in Side alone, realizing how much I still loved my husband, who sat at home in despair.
One day before my departure I met with him again
One day before my departure I met with him againThe Turk pretended to have a guilty conscience because he had left me so alone the last few days, and how much he loved me! With a terribly guilty conscience, I started my journey home. Once there, I could barely look my husband in the eye. My husband noticed my changed nature and gave me a choice in the following weeks, until our flight together to Turkey in May! This put a lot of pressure on me. I knew I had to make a decision and, despite everything, I asked my husband to let me have another personal conversation with the Turk in May.
In the weeks leading up to departure, my emotions were on a roller coaster as I continued to chat and call and text with the Ottoman! Again and again he affirmed that his feelings for me were real! During these conversations, I learned from him that he wanted to resign from the tour company to start working as a translator at the Chamber of Commerce in Manavgat. He would be tired of the job in the tourism industry. Because of his alleged German studies (he wrote a perfect German, only his pronunciation was not quite correct) he would have the chance to take up this profession. This again impressed me very much. He told me that he had to take an exam at the Chamber of Commerce in May and if he passed, he could start there immediately.
For a moment I could see his ice cold eyes
In May I flew to Side again – now with my husband! The Turk wanted to meet with me immediately after my arrival and had also booked said hotel again. This I refused, to meet him the following day at the temple in Side. My husband knew about this meeting and asked me to make my final decision now, no matter what it would be! On the way to the temple I realized that I would decide against the Ottoman! He told me again how sick his mother was, that he desperately needed money, and that he was going to start working at the Chamber of Commerce.
It was clear to me then that this man was lying. In any case, he did not receive any money from me! For a moment I could see his ice-cold eyes as I told him it was over between the two of us. Upon returning to my husband, we had long clarifying conversations and together decided on a new beginning for our relationship! We flew back to Germany, I realized that in spite of everything I wanted to check what the truth was about the Turk left behind.
Acquaintances of mine called GTI in Side to find out if he was still working there as a tour guide. This was confirmed by the office there. After inquiring about a chamber of commerce in Manavgat, I learned that it doesn’t even exist there! I then contacted the German Embassy in Izmir and the Foreign Office in Berlin. And surprise: The Turk was already on record there!
We simply turned the chase for women on the Internet around
We simply turned the chase for women on the Internet aroundThis led my husband and me to take the step of having a fictitious woman approach him in chat. The Turk immediately responded to these conversations! In the initial conversations with this fictitious person, he told us that he worked at the Chamber of Commerce, was 26 years old and single. Already after the first two conversations he professed his true love to this woman! When she agreed to come to Side, he called the same hotel Selenium where I was already staying with him. Since this fictitious woman stated that she was wealthy, he immediately expressed his desire to marry her, want children with her, and introduce her to his parents. This was ridiculous in this case, as this fictitious woman was actually my husband.
The Internet cafe was a stronghold for scammers
In his charming way, he tried to talk this woman out of a new car, a blue Polo, worth 25,000 euros. During these extremely informative chat conversations with the Turk, we noticed that he was chatting with many more women. Since we acquired a second cell phone, we were also able to continue our SMS contact with the Ottoman. It was frightening that he wrote the same messages there as he had done with me! He also detailed what sexual things he wanted to do with this fictitious woman in the hotel. These were exactly the same words he had written to me! In June we, my spouse and I, then flew together once again to Side!
With our own eyes, we were able to see for ourselves that the Turk was still working for the travel company and was using an Internet café for his machinations, which was located right next to his employer’s office. Furthermore, I must mention that I had noticed that said hotel was also not far from this office and is probably also used by other Turkish men for these purposes.
The men laughed and gave each other tips and advice
There we chatted as this fictional person in the Internet café. During these conversations we realized that this way of attracting and hitting on women was probably the most current form of business. We were able to see for ourselves that Turkish men, mostly in their teens, were sitting en masse in the Internet cafe and chatting or flirting with at least five to six women at a time, sending them all the same hollow phrases in order to attract their attention.
This horrified us very much, because as we could partly read along, all these women reacted in the same way as myself! The men sometimes laughed themselves silly at the women’s answers and gave each other advice and tips on how to proceed. These things that happen there in Turkey – and certainly not only there – make us really stunned, so we think that this story must go public to try to save other women from such a fate! The authorities are informed about these details in the hope that these Turks will at least not receive a visa to the EU countries.
We hope that with our experiences we can at least warn you about this marriage swindler and achieve something. If only one woman says “no” to this Turk based on this story, that’s a big success! In this sense we wish you all the best,
Susanne & Frank
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